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~ Wednesday, March 21 ~
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If you are a cis person who is offended by ‘die cis scum’ then you are cis scum.

gloria-swanson:

stfuconfederates:

Because cis scum have been telling trans folk to die for a long fucking time and self-defense isn’t oppression. 

It’s really hard for me as a cis person to feel ~threatened or offended by the phrase “die cis scum” when I consider the following statistics:

  • 33.2% of transgender youth have attempted suicide. Clements-Nolle K., Marx R., Katz M. (2006). Attempted suicide among transgender persons: The influence of gender-based discrimination and victimization. Journal of Homosexuality, 51(3): 53-69.)
  • 55% of transgender youth report being physically attacked. (GLSEN. (2003). The 2003 national school climate survey: the school related experiences of our nation’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth.)
  • 74% of transgender youth reported being sexually harassed at school, and 90% of transgender youth reported feeling unsafe at school because of their gender expression. (GLSEN. (2001). The 2001 national school climate survey: the school related experiences of our nation’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth.)
  • In a survey of 403 transgender people, 78% reported having been verbally harassed and 48% reported having been victims of assault, including assault with a weapon, sexual assault or rape. (Wilchins, R., Lombardi, E., Priesing, D. and Malouf, D. (1997) First national survey of transgender violence. Gender Public Advocacy Coalition.)

Just something to keep in mind.

(Source: youthprideri.org)

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~ Sunday, January 1 ~
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tegidsystem:

laranitanz:

Wow, just wow. Libra “gets girls”. So long as said “girls” have a vagina and menstruate. So, you know, not those ridiculous trans women who think they are real women when we all know they’re not. What a load of mean-spirited, offensive, transphobic crap. Might be a good time for me to buy that Mooncup. Fuck you, Libra.

Maybe it’s the whole ‘blind person having somebody else describe the video to her’ thing, but… all we saw here was two white chicks in a bathroom putting on make-up. One of them is being slightly more elaborate about make-up. The other looks uncomfortable and offers the other a sanitary product, which the first does not accept. The first leaves, and the second seemed relieved.

We hate having somebody else in the same bathroom when we’re trying to deal with period stuff, because wrappers are so damn noisy, and it feels like the most horridly obvious thing in the world. Vulnerable. We’d be relieved when the only other lady in the room leaves, because that’s our queue to get on with it and get out. We’ve deliberately “waited out” somebody else in the restroom just to get the noise-privacy we needed to feel comfortable. 

We don’t really know if that’s something that sighted people have an issue with or not, feeling like every little noise is So Damn Obvious. :-/

But if it’s comforting to anybody who took offense at the commercial… the little kid who described the vid to me just said “two ladies.”

She didn’t say one looks manlier than the other, just that one was using more make-up.

We quote the kid directly:

“Okay, there’s two ladies in the bathroom putting on make-up in front of a mirror. They both have yellow hair. They’re putting on eye make-up now. Now it’s lip make-up. The lady on the left is using more make-up than the lady on the right. The lady on the right looks uncomfortable. She took some blue box outta’ her purse and pulled a- looks like one of those stick erasers? out and is holding it for the other lady to take. The lady on the left didn’t take it and walked away. The lady on the right stopped looking uncomfortable and smiled. That’s all.”

So yeah. That’s what the kid saw, and that means it’s what I saw, because she’s my eyes tonight. I’m not saying anybody else’s interpretation here is by any means incorrect, because obviously I DON’T know what other details might be happening here… but the only interpretation I could get was, woman 1. isn’t on the rag. Woman 2. is and wants privacy, so she waits for woman 1. to leave before she goes about her business. Her putting on less make-up is a suggestion that she’s just going through the motions as a stalling technique until woman 1. leaves. It’s something I have personally done countless times, without being able to see who else is in the bathroom.

*shrug*

This video is really cis-centric and trans-hating.  It really is.  The intention of the video is to have a trans* woman (on the left) contrasted against a cis-woman (on the right).

Firstly, it starts with the incredibly tired “trans-women put on way too much make-up and always try too hard to look like real women”.  The whole point of the little contest going on between them is that the trans* woman is trying to out-do the “real” woman, to prove that not only is she a woman, that she is more of a woman.  Which relies on horrible stereotypes about womanhood and trans* people.  It is harkening on the idea that trans* women are all men in drag or don’t know how to be real women and end up trying too hard and giving themselves away.  And the conclusion of the contest?  Despite overdoing it in every way, the trans* woman is thoroughly beat without a doubt by the fact that she doesn’t need a tampon because she doesn’t have periods/a vagina.  That is the punchline.  She can’t be the better woman because she isn’t a woman because she doesn’t have a vagina.  Right there.  That simple.  Trans* woman trying to beat a “real” woman at being a girl and loses because the “real” girl has periods.  Fucking disgusting.  And that isn’t even getting into the fact that they chose to make the trans* woman “unattractive” and overly aggressive and the villain of the ad. 

Secondly, the tag-line of the entire ad is “Libra gets girls.”  Gets girls.  GIRLS.  The tampon company gets girls.  The entire message of this commercial is that Libra gets girls because girls use tampons.  Well, guess which person in this ad isn’t gotten by Libra.  The implication is that the woman on the left is not actually a girl.  That is why this is a piece of trans-hating shit.  They are outright saying that the woman on the left is not a girl.  That she is not a woman.

As to the woman on the right looking nervous the whole time, it is because she is in a bathroom with a “man” who is trying to out-do her at being a woman and creeping her out.  So she (using her womanly ability to identify imposters pretending to be women) finds a way to slay the evil pervert and whips out the tampon, knowing that the trans* woman would never need one because they have no vagina and will be offended and insulted and shamed by the holy presence of the tampons and leave. 

I just…  arg >.<  This really is trans-hating and ciscentric and all kinds of horrible.

Please trust me as a member of the group being hurt by this kind of bullshit when I say that this is what I/we say it is and am not just reading way more into it than is really there.  This is the kinda shit that I have to put up with all the time, in person and in the media and all over the fucking place.

-Jackie

PS: Fuck.  I’m tired.  I should have gone to bed a while ago when I said I was but I saw this and…  blah.  headachey…. 

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~ Friday, December 30 ~
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So… confronting a question of some importance to some people: otherkin = oppressed, or not? Won’t this be fun. :-/

tegidsystem:

Before about… *counts*… nine hours ago, we were rather of the opinion that no, otherkin (and nonhumans in general) do not experience oppression just by being otherkin. Most of our system members self-identify as otherkin, and all of us identify as nonhumans… and we’ve never personally felt particularly oppressed by it. Our body has white, able-bodied, cisgendered passing privilege, and while the member that does the most fronting has a sensory disability and neurodiversity working against her, she doesn’t announce those things in public or behave according to stereotypes assigned to those categories. 

Our definition of oppression revolved around one requirement and only one: that members of a group have historically been subjected to physical violence because they are members of that group. This clearly applies to POCs, PWDs, and any ‘out of the closet’ members of LGBTQ. In the case of LGBTQ, historically the violence has also been enacted on people who do not fit in that category, but whose mannerisms, mode of dress, or some other outward qualities caused them to fit the oppressors’ stereotyped concepts of LGBTQ (i.e. ‘effeminate’ men, women who keep their hair very short, same-sex platonic friends mistaken to be each others’ romantic partners, etc.)… in essence, all of these modes of oppression occurred from a basis of externally visible qualities.

That was really the whole of our framework for what constitutes oppression: a history of violence based on externally visible qualities. For all intents and purposes, many tumblr bloggers seem to use a very similar definition, even if they don’t actively frame it in those terms.

Then we had a long, interesting discussion with a new friend who is disabled, a person of colour, not from the USA but now living in the USA, neuroatypical, and who identifies as otherkin. 

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A very interesting view and I find myself agreeing with the conclusion.  The idea of enforced invisibility as a form of oppression is one that I have felt but haven’t been able to put into words yet. 

My only real divergence would be in terms of transable people.  I really don’t know enough about transable stuff to form an opinion, but something strikes an uncomfortable tone with me concerning the idea of an inherent level of ability in one’s identity that I can’t quite reconcile.  Will have a big post on it when I have better thoughts on it.

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~ Sunday, November 20 ~
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[TW: Cissexism/Transphobia, Transmisogyny]

assholedansavage:

[Image Description: Background is several triangles in a circle like a pie alternating from red, orange, yellow, green, light blue, blue, violet, and pink. A picture of Lady Gaga.


Top Text: TRANS PEOPLE SHOULD BE RESPECTED AND HONORED

Bottom Text: BUT MY VAGINA GETS OFFENDED IF YOU THINK I’M ONE OF THEM]

Sources: Here and here

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~ Wednesday, November 2 ~
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~ Thursday, September 29 ~
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~ Monday, September 12 ~
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The Lexicon Defense

“I have friends that let me call them traps.  And tranny is a word already widely used to describe transsexuals.  Why do I have to remove perfectly good words from my lexicon just for your sake?”

*ahem*  Fuck.  You.  Buy a dictionary.  Find a better word.  This defense is shaky at best and offensive at worst (actually, it is offensive at best as well).  The idea that you losing a single word from your lexicon is a worse prospect than an entire group of people being marginalized by your using it is privileged bullshit.

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~ Wednesday, September 7 ~
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Frustration

Trigger warning: transphobia, bigotry, privilege, argument derailing techniques

Why do I do this to myself?  Why do I get involved with “discussions” that won’t possibly end well for me?  Why do I put myself out on edge and in line for abuse when my spoons are already at critical lows?  Will it change their minds?  Unlikely.  Does it even make a difference in the end to stand up to bigots?  To put myself in the line of fire for the sake of offering some resistance, any resistance, to the ignorant hateful people that love t stand on their soap boxes and denounce me and my ilk as freaks?

And I’m attacked for being overly sensitive.  I’m just looking to be offended.  Is that what they think?  That I just enjoy putting myself in harm’s way and being bruised and trampled?  That this is just some sick perversion that I get off on?

Just once I would like to be part of a winning battle.  Just once I would like to see it end in my favor with even just a single mind changed.

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